My Parent's Heart...

You are probably reading this because you are impacted by a child or children in some way. The heart of a parent came about because I so desperately want children and that isn't a part of my life yet. Because of the experiences and training that I've had, I decided to start a resource to help parents in dealing with their children.

The concept has grown since I first conceived of it. What God has shown me is that the HEART of a parent is so important. It has to be healed, nourished, and loved in order to create the environment of love that the children in their care need to thrive.

A Mom that I look up to with the utmost respect, Cheri Bollmann, pointed out to me a couple of weeks ago that God is the perfect parent. I knew that, but hearing her describe how HE loves, put things in an entirely different perspective for me. We can not be God, nor should we strive to be HIM...However, there are things that we as parents, caregivers, mentors, grandparents, etc. etc. can do to prepare our parent's heart to nurture the hearts of our children.

In this blog, you will find resources, book lists, updates on my own journey, information on classes, and eventually testimonials of parents whose lives and relationships with their children were radically changed as they learned to take care of their parent's heart in order to pour out LOVE to their children...

Tuesday, September 23, 2008

Beyond Consequences~Dealing with A Parent's Heart

Hi! I'm back. I am now a Certified Beyond Consequences Instructor(BCI). Listen everyone, I had no idea the journey that this would begin in my life. I still don't think I know all of how this will impact my life and the lives of others.

Before I say anything else, I must say that whether you are a parent, teacher, social worker, counselor, case manager, or ANYONE dealing with children on a regular basis, you NEED to know about Heather Forbes and Beyond Consequences. Actually, even if you don't deal with children, but you deal with people, you should know about Heather Forbes and Beyond Consequences. The basis is LOVE and every relationship could use some extra doses of LOVE.

Sometimes I still struggle with the why God keeps putting me in position to give input to families when I don't have one of my own. Some of that has to do with wanting a family, but now I'm realizing that more than that, I still need to deal with some of my own insecurities of being too young, or inexperienced. To God, none of that matters. He has given me a passion and a mission and HE says it is for now, not for when I feel like I've arrived.

So, what is the mission? My mission and greatest passion is to see families functioning healthily and to their fullest capacity. When I first started The Heart of a Parent, my intent was to assist people like myself. People who love children, but don't have them. However, God has since expanded my view and I understand that the heart of a parent is at the root of the issues keeping families from functioning healthily and to their fullest capacity.

What do I mean? Well, those of you who are parents know that if you are tired, hungry, depressed, angry, etc. your patience is much shorter with your children. Well, what I've been becoming much more aware of is that if parents do not take care of their own hearts and deal with their old childhood wounds and issues, they will inevitably injure the hearts of their children.

This seems like "common sense" even as I write it. The problem is that even though it's a simple concept, following through with it can be time consuming, tiring, and painful. But I urge you as parents and future parents to take care of your heart issues. Go deep. Get outside help if necessary. Do whatever you need to do so that you are free to parent and love your children without fear.

Beyond Consequences is a great place to start. www.BeyondConsequences.com Visit the website and get the resources. I will have information coming soon about the Parenting Trainings that I will be offering through The Heart of A Parent. Stay Tuned....

Walk in Love....